Our generation grew to depend on the instant solutions. We want everything the easy way.
And right now. Being it a grocery, clothes, experiences, travels, russian wives or diploma, you can have EVERYTHING in an instant with just a few clicks on your phone or pc.
(Especially men) grew so selfish and lazy, reaching out for the instant solutions in every wake of life. Most notably in the gay context. I think nowadays, there's nothing easier than to be gay and have sex.
You open an app, choose a man like from the catalogue, in an hour it's all over no questions asked and you never have to see the other guy again.
Everything conveniently in your timing, on your terms, with the 'human sextoy' answering exactly to your criteria. The big friction stems from the fact that even the most cynical gay-hoes wants to have someone special, be special for someone in return, have someone who's interested in their life, supportive, who's there for a hug and a cuddle on the particularly tough day...but expect to get it for a ZERO INPUT.
Ideally under an 'open relationship' agreement (insert a puke), so you have all the perks of having a relationship with all the perks of being single. Is there anything more lazy than this??? We're a generation of men crippled by the liberal upbringing by unconditionally loving mothers.
So in conclusion no. I don't believe you need to act fast when love is involved.
Love still remains something you'll never be able to break down to a logical sequence, spreadsheets and program at your leisure.
It will always take you by surprise, push you outside your comfort zone and that way force you to grow as a human being.
I think good things need to grow, they don't come falling from the sky. Good things take time. And effort. You can't have instant solution for everything. Or you can, but that's a sad life. Life without challenges is life experienced on the superficial level.
That is my usual rant. If you know me, you've already heard some version of this at some point. And I'm used to people go: 'oh wow, you're right, it's pretty grim out there.' And then we all feel a bit hopeless for a few days.
So I was pleasantly surprised the other day to hear my friend Luca, a mad italien stem cell scientist, with whom I'm going on this nondates, offering a different & simple perspective to effectively shut me up :
